All Stressed Out Part 2

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Dr. Bill Pfohl says: "One of the things parents can do is they really have to be aware that kids are under the stress."

As kids deal with stress there are two ways for them to cope. The first of those is positive.

Drawing is one way 12-year-old Sam Mayes gets rid of his stress.

Mayes says: "Sometimes I'll play video games to get my mind off of stuff. I like music. I love to do anything with music."

Eight-year-old Bailey Dargo uses tae-kwon-do as a way to relieve stress. She also has a technique she uses when she's upset.

Dargo says: "I get one of my dolls and I squeeze her and I close my eyes and I think of good things. And after a moment or two, I feel better."

On top of play rehearsals and cross country practice, 14-year-old Vivian Ellis is trying to bring up her grades. She says she is learning to handle stress better.

Ellis says: "I don't really talk about it. I'll sing certain songs that allow me to express the emotion. And sometimes I'll talk to my mom. And sometimes I'll keep it to myself, which is not good at all."

Dr. Pfohl says: "Then there's negative coping. Which we now find as cutting. They can't handle stress and they take it out on themselves."

None of the kids we talked to say they use negative coping to handle stress. However, research shows many children don't tell their parents if they are under stress. Of the three we spoke to, only Bailey regularly talks to her parents about stress.

She says: "I ask them what can I do? What's the solution?"

Mayes says: "I talk to them about some of the things that are getting me stressed out."

So what should parents do if their kids seem stressed, but don't talk about it?

Dr. Pfohl says: "Kids do that. They push you away. That's part of the interaction. What I like to suggest that really seems to work is a family meeting."